How I got here

I didn’t come to coaching through a straight line.

I started out as a scientist, completed a PhD, and spent many years working in research and later in medical writing and clinical strategy.
For a long time, my world was shaped by facts, analysis, and understanding.

And while that is still part of who I am, life has taken me in directions that couldn’t be solved by thinking alone.

Over the years, I have gone through several major changes.
I moved from Germany to Denmark, changed my career path, went through a divorce, and built a new life with my two children. Today, we are a patchwork family — something I could not have imagined earlier in my life.

These experiences have reshaped me.

They have taught me that not everything in life can be understood or controlled.
Some things need to be felt, lived through, and accepted — even when they don’t make sense at first.

For a long time, I approached life mainly through my head.
Over time, I have learned to also listen to what is there underneath — my feelings, my needs, and what truly matters to me.

Today, I feel at home in my life. Not because everything is figured out, but because I have learned to trust myself in the process.

This ongoing process of adjusting, questioning, and growing is what led me to coaching, where I combine both sides:

  • a structured, clear way of thinking

  • and a deep respect for the emotional and often irrational parts of being human

I am naturally more introverted, and I value honest, real conversations.
Not surface-level — but the kind where something actually shifts.

Currently, I am supplementing this knowledge that life has taught me with a formal education in systemic coaching with focus on mindfulness and creativity (ongoing).

I don’t believe in quick fixes.
But I do believe that when you are willing to look at what is really going on, and stay with it for a moment, change becomes possible.

That’s the space I offer in my coaching.

Stefanie Karlshøj, PhD